May I be a jerk? Please forgive me if this is out of line, Niska.
I spent years working in the medical field, and realized that you can't force a patient to accept help if they don't want it. It really is up to them if they live or die. At some point in time, he has to decide to do whatever it takes to stay here WITH and FOR you. The rest of us, and really no one except YOU and HIM really, matter in this. But his choice is to either suck it up and do whatever it takes to stay in this life with you, or leave you by dying. I like him and have a lot of respect for him, so I know this sounds harsh. But if you could, please tell him I said to "pull his cranial cavity out of his anal cavity", or however you would like to rephrase that so he can understand properly, and take care of himself. I mean, you spent enough time beating him into something you could live with, he kinda owes you to stick around a while. I am still going to pray for you both, and hope he quits being a stubborn mule and does what he needs to in order to stay here in this life. If he loves you, and based on what you have both posted here, he definitely does, he will do this and whatever else it takes. I'm not asking him to like it, and I know he won't, but this is one of those times when you do what you have to do and grumble about how bad it sucked later, and live because you chose to go through a bit of pain and discomfort that was worth it in the end.