Sounds like a teenager, right? Well not hardly, my Dad is 79, and Mom is 78.
Dad has always been easygoing, quite, and good natured. He taught me to hunt, fish, and almost everything I needed to know to get along in this world. Dad was a trucker and was gone quite a bit after I got older. Dad now has Alzheimer's, he has good days and he has bad days. But he has reached the point where he needs constant supervision.
Mom is dominating, aggressive, possessive, jealous, overbearing, and just plain mean. Always has been, always will be. That's why Dad stayed a trucker till he reached 72. And why I left when I turned 18. I personally think she is right behind Dad, she is often just as confused as he is. But she refused to see a doctor, or even talk about herself.
My brothers and I would like to move them into an assisted living center, but we foresee problems. When Dad is having a bad day, he forgets who he is. If he meets a woman and she flirts, Dad will flirt back. To him that's just being friendly, and if you ask him who he is at that time he does not know, or that he is married. Mom has already walked in and physically assaulted two women who she thought was flirting with Dad. She will not listen to reason, she threatens to pull the hair out of any woman that she catches flirting with Dad. He is hers and nobody else can have him. Yet she is no longer able to cook, clean, or keep tabs on Dad. Dad wandered away last week and got lost. It took the police two hours to find him. Then when the officers got him home, they were afraid to leave, thinking she would beat him for getting lost. They stayed till one of my brothers and his wife arrived. My brother and I are going to get together via the Internet Friday to discuss our problem. I feel it's reached a point where we finally have to do something.
Dad has always been easygoing, quite, and good natured. He taught me to hunt, fish, and almost everything I needed to know to get along in this world. Dad was a trucker and was gone quite a bit after I got older. Dad now has Alzheimer's, he has good days and he has bad days. But he has reached the point where he needs constant supervision.
Mom is dominating, aggressive, possessive, jealous, overbearing, and just plain mean. Always has been, always will be. That's why Dad stayed a trucker till he reached 72. And why I left when I turned 18. I personally think she is right behind Dad, she is often just as confused as he is. But she refused to see a doctor, or even talk about herself.
My brothers and I would like to move them into an assisted living center, but we foresee problems. When Dad is having a bad day, he forgets who he is. If he meets a woman and she flirts, Dad will flirt back. To him that's just being friendly, and if you ask him who he is at that time he does not know, or that he is married. Mom has already walked in and physically assaulted two women who she thought was flirting with Dad. She will not listen to reason, she threatens to pull the hair out of any woman that she catches flirting with Dad. He is hers and nobody else can have him. Yet she is no longer able to cook, clean, or keep tabs on Dad. Dad wandered away last week and got lost. It took the police two hours to find him. Then when the officers got him home, they were afraid to leave, thinking she would beat him for getting lost. They stayed till one of my brothers and his wife arrived. My brother and I are going to get together via the Internet Friday to discuss our problem. I feel it's reached a point where we finally have to do something.